Showing posts with label Positive Model. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Positive Model. Show all posts

Wednesday, March 21, 2007

Discover the 90/10 Principle.
By Stephen Covey

It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).
它將改變你的一生(最低限度,它將改變你對不同情況的反應)。

What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.
90/10 的定律是什麼?生命的 10% 是由你的際遇所組成,餘下的 90% 則由你的反應而決定。

What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic.
這意味著什麼?我們無法掌握那 10% 的際遇。 我們無法阻止行程因汽車壞掉、航班誤點,甚或車子拋錨而延誤。
We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.
我們無法控制那 10% 的際遇,但餘下的 90% 則不然。你可以決定餘下的 90% 。
How? ……….By your reaction.
如何? … 憑你的反應。
You cannot control a red light. But you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
你不能控制交通燈轉紅,但你能夠控制你的反應。別讓他人愚弄你,你能夠控制你的反應。

Let's use an example.
讓我們舉個例子。
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee
onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened.
你與你的家人吃早餐,你的女兒不小心把咖啡潑倒在你的襯衫上,這是你無法控制的情況。
What happens next will be determined by how you react.
下一步將如何則由你的反應而定。
You curse.
你開始責罵。

You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.
你狠狠地臭罵女兒一頓,令她陷於痛苦之中。然後你又把怨氣發洩在太太身上,責難她把咖啡放在桌邊。接踵而來的是一場短暫的罵戰。你生氣地上樓更換你的襯衫。你下樓,然後發現你的女兒正哭著吃早餐並趕著回校。結果,她錯過了巴士。

Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.
你的太太趕著上班,你匆忙開車把女兒送回學校。因為你已經遲到了,你以時速四十英里在一條限速三十英里 上的道路前進。

After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.
你付了六十元道路罰款,終於抵達學校,並已遲到十五分鐘。你的女兒沒有跟你道別便已跑進學校。你回到公司,已是九時二十分了,這時你竟然發現──你忘了帶公事包。這是非常糟糕的一天,而你感到你的運氣每況越下,你開始渴望回家。

When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
當你下班回家,你感到你與太太及女兒的關係上出現微小裂痕。
Why? …. Because of how you reacted in the morning.
為什麼? … 一切皆由你早上的反應而起。
Why did you have a bad day?
為何你會有如此糟糕的一天?

A) Did the coffee cause it? A)是咖啡所造成的嗎?
B) Did your daughter cause it? B)是你的女兒所造成的嗎?
C) Did the policeman cause it? C)是警察所造成的嗎?
D) Did you cause it? D)是你所造成的嗎?
The answer is “D". 答案是D。

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5
seconds is what caused your bad day.
你無法控制女兒打翻咖啡一事,但你在緊接那五秒內的反應讓霉運開始發生。

Here is what could have and should have happened.
以下是你改寫命運的結局。

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
咖啡翻倒在你身上,你的女兒幾乎要哭了,但你溫柔地說:「親愛的,這並不算什麼,但你下次得小心一點了。」你拿起毛巾便上樓去。在你更衣完畢並拿起你的公事包後,你下樓去,望出窗外,你看到你的孩子正在上巴士。她回頭並向你揮手。你早了五分鐘回到公司,並親切地與你的同事打招呼。你的上司亦對你新的一天給予正面的評價。

Notice the difference?
看到兩者的分別嗎?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
兩個不同的情景,由同一個開首所引起。但結局完全兩樣。
Why?
為什麼?
Because of how you REACTED.
皆因你的反應而起。

You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
你或許真的無法掌控 10% 的際遇,但剩下的 90% 則可以由你的反應而定。

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you!
以下有一些實踐 90/10 定律的方法。如有人說起你的是非,千萬別當一塊「海綿」,讓那些攻擊性的說話像水在玻璃上一般的流走。別讓那些負面評價纏繞著你!

React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
適當的回應能夠使你的生活免受破壞。一個錯誤的反應能夠使你失去朋友、生氣、甚或被壓力壓得喘不過氣來。

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you
curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them?
如果車子拋錨了,你會如何感想?你會生氣嗎?你會否猛擊車上的鐵鍊?我的一個朋友就把鐵鍊弄下來!你會怒罵嗎?你的血壓是否急速上升?你會否嘗試去踫擊他們?

WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?
誰會在意你上班遲到了十秒?為何讓車子破壞你的駕駛過程?

Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
記著 90/10 的定律,別在意。

You are told you lost your job.
你被通知說你被辭退了。

Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.
你為何失眠與憤怒 ? 事情總是發生了。不如用你憂心的力量及時間去找尋新工作吧!

The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on.
航班延誤了,而它將影響你一整天的行程。為何將你的怒氣發洩在服務員的身上?她並不能阻止事情發生。

Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
如利用你的時間學習,或認識旁邊的乘客。不要憤怒,它將令你的一天變的更糟。

Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.
現在,你懂得了 90/10 的定律。實踐它,你將會發現它的驚人效果。嘗試實行它,你將不會有任何損失。 90/10 的定律非常神奇,而只有很少數的人懂得運用它。

The result?
結果呢?

Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.
超過百萬人沈溺在痛苦、嘗試、問題與心傷之中。我們必須理解並實踐 90/10 的定律。

It CAN change your life!!!
它將改變你的一生。
Enjoy…. 願與各位並勉!

Monday, November 27, 2006


Term
-Beliefs & Expectations
我們對每個目標都存在有期望跟一個信仰,相信我們自己能夠去達到我們所預期或不能達到此所預期

-Performance
實際做的成果,一個事實

-Motivation & Consistency
介於自己預期跟實際的表現是什麼呢? 需要的是動機(motivation),一個讓你去執行的動機 接下來執行的時候,會去評估Internal(你所想的)跟external(外在的事物)的一致性(consitency)

-Interpretation
自己對實際成果的解釋,一個內心的dialogue,一個內化的動作
形成合理的解釋有兩個動作
objective :對實際結果這個物件的解釋
subective:你的信仰哲學對這個物件的解釋,這個解釋將修正我們的信仰哲學跟預期

Example
我們可以舉兩個例子(Pessimistic v.s. Optimistic)來說明這個Model,假設這兩個例子都有同樣的目標(goal)
目標:2007年要賺100萬台幣淨收入

Pessimistic
-Beliefs & Expectations:我覺得可能做不到我設定的目標
-Motivation & Consistency: 由於我認為我可能做不到,所以我的動機顯得不是那麼的積極,在評估外部的狀況時會尤其留意負面的壞消息導致你的motivation薄弱
-Performance:2007年只賺10萬淨收入
-Interpreation
Objective:這個事實告訴我,果真如我相信的,我真的辦不到
Subjective:算了,我辦不到

Optimistic
-Beliefs & Expectations:我很有信心我可以做得到
-Motivation & Consistency: 我有很強的動機想要達成這個目標,因此我開始評估整個實施的可能性
-Performance:2007年只賺10萬淨收入
-Interpreation
Objective:為什麼會失敗,我要從那邊改進
Subjective:恩,可能目標設太高了,如果設一年目標淨收入70萬,經過上次的經驗的改進,我一定可以達到

由上面這兩個例子,可以發現

1.相同的目標跟結果,但是卻有對該事件不同的解釋,這將促使這兩類人後續做的決定都不同
樂觀(optimistic)的人可以為他的生活給予一個正向循環,悲觀的人則否

2. "Get Real"可以在這討論
樂觀的人雖然有時他的目標設定過高,但由於樂觀的人具有高度的信仰,高度的動機,會一直對現實做修正,最後會修正到信仰跟事實是相等的
悲觀的人因為常常得不到很適當的修正導致他們經常只有一次循環就放棄了

3.我們失敗的次數可能不夠多,悲觀跟樂觀的人對失敗的詮釋,也很不同
樂觀的人往往不在意的失敗的次數,他在意的是每次失敗的修正是否能夠達到他的預期
悲觀的人不願意一直嘗試失敗,導致他的人生常常沒辦法達到他的預期,因為如此,機會常常因此從自己的身邊留了過去

learn to fail; fail to learn

4.Interpretation這個動作在我們生活中起了很大的作用,做正面的解釋跟負面的解釋決定全都在我們身上

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